13 Essential Life Skills Your Child Should Know by Now
The pandemic has left a significant mark on children’s development. Beyond academic setbacks, many kids now struggle with basic life skills—like tying their shoes and collaborating with peers at school.
When my son turned seven, we went to buy new sneakers. He picked a pair with shoelaces, and it suddenly dawned on my husband and me: our son didn’t know how to tie his shoes. Over the years, we’d bought him only Velcro shoes. This realization led me to ask myself—what else hadn’t we taught him?
In a tech-driven world full of shortcuts, it’s easy to overlook fundamental skills. After some reflection, I realized that there were a few key life lessons that might have slipped through the cracks.
Several studies in the U.S. indicate that during the pandemic, children didn’t just fall behind academically—they also lost essential life skills. According to a survey from Education Week, 94% of preschool teachers reported that students struggled more than before with following instructions, and 85% noted a decline in students’ ability to share and cooperate with peers. Additionally, 77% of educators observed greater difficulties with basic tasks like using pencils, pens, and scissors, and 69% saw a significant increase in the number of children unable to tie their shoes compared to five years ago.
Here’s a look at some important life skills for younger children. Does your child know how to do these?
Essential Life Skills for Preschoolers
1. Tying Shoelaces
Tying shoes is more than just a way to keep shoes on your feet—it helps develop hand-eye coordination. Show your child various methods, like the “bunny ears” technique, and let them practice on large, adult-sized shoes. Don’t worry if they don’t master it right away—many kids learn to tie their shoes between the ages of 5 and 6.
2. Waiting in Line
With pandemic restrictions limiting social interactions, some kids missed out on learning basic social skills, like waiting patiently in line. Teaching your child to wait patiently helps build self-control and resilience. You can make waiting fun by playing games like “I Spy” or asking them “Would you rather” questions.
3. Memorizing Your Phone Number
During a recent outdoor event, I saw a lost five-year-old who didn’t know her mom’s phone number. Fortunately, the situation was resolved quickly, but it reminded me how crucial it is for children to learn how to contact their parents in an emergency. Start early by repeating your phone number during car rides or bath time.
4. Organizing and Cleaning Up
Even young children can help tidy up. Encouraging your child to put away toys or help clear the table after meals instills a sense of responsibility and keeps them involved in household chores.
5. Brushing Teeth
While young children need help with brushing, by the time they’re a bit older, they should be able to brush their teeth independently. Supervise them, but give them the responsibility of brushing, flossing, and rinsing.
6. Making Decisions
Allowing children to make simple decisions, like picking out clothes or choosing a snack, teaches them problem-solving and boosts their confidence. Just be mindful not to overwhelm them with too many choices—sometimes less is more!
Life Skills for School-Aged Children
7. Reading Time on a Clock
While most clocks are digital now, it’s still important for kids to learn how to read an analog clock. Interactive books and toys can make learning fun while helping your child understand how to tell time.
8. Basic Cleaning
By age five, my son knew how to do basic cleaning tasks—dusting, sweeping, and even cleaning the bathroom. These skills are not only helpful but will benefit him in the future. I occasionally have him help clean the bathroom sink, and he enjoys it during the summer months.
9. Putting Away Clean Laundry
Teach your child to fold and put away their clothes. It’s fine if they don’t do it perfectly at first—flexibility is key. Eventually, they’ll develop the habit, and you’ll appreciate their help.
10. Doing Their Own Hair
Although I don’t have a daughter, I know that learning how to style their hair can be an important milestone for kids. Even boys can benefit from knowing how to comb their hair or style it with a little gel.
11. Cooking Basics
Kids love helping in the kitchen. Give them age-appropriate tasks like chopping vegetables (under supervision) or measuring ingredients. These skills will stay with them for a lifetime.
12. Riding a Bike
Learning to ride a bike is an essential skill for kids. It’s not only fun but also great exercise. If your child hasn’t learned yet, start by getting them comfortable with their bike and giving them plenty of practice time.
13. Taking a Bath Alone
By the time they’re around five or six, most kids should be able to clean themselves in the bath. Supervise them initially, but after a few weeks of monitoring, they should be able to bathe independently.
By ensuring our children master these fundamental life skills, we set them up for success—not just academically, but socially and emotionally as well. These skills are part of their journey to becoming independent, capable individuals. So, let’s make sure they’re equipped with the tools they need to thrive.